Grief and Loss

There are things in life that we do not want to happen but have to accept, things we do not want to know but have to learn, and people we cannot live without but have to let go.

Loss is an inevitable part of life, and grief is a natural process. The reasons for grief are many, such as the loss of a loved one, the loss of a business or job; the end of a relationship; children moving onto college or getting married; the loss of health, or the letting go of a long-held dream. Dealing with a significant loss can be one of the most difficult times in a person’s life.

Hypnosis and hypnotherapy can assist with the emotional transformation. It is not about “getting over it” – it is about living with your loss and living with the change.

Sudden or shocking losses due to events like crimes, accidents, or suicide can be traumatic. There is no way to prepare. They can challenge your sense of security and confidence in the predictability of life. You may experience symptoms such as sleep disturbance, nightmares, distressing thoughts,  mood swings and social isolation.

Predictable losses, like those due to terminal illness, sometimes allow more time to prepare for the loss. However, they create two layers of grief: the grief related to the anticipation of the loss and the grief related to the loss itself.

When experiencing grief, it is common to:

  • Feel like you are “going crazy”

  • Have difficulty concentrating

  • Feel sad

  • Be irritable or angry (at the deceased, oneself, others, higher powers)

  • Feel frustrated or misunderstood

  • Experience anxiety, nervousness, or fearfulness

  • Feel like you want to “escape”

  • Experience guilt or remorse

  • Be ambivalent

  • Feel numb

  • Lack of energy and motivation


There is no timescale for the grief process and this cannot be rushed. Be patient and allow yourself to experience your own reactions to loss. Loss is not something you get over, yet you learn to live with the change. It is normal for significant dates, certain music or holidays to trigger feelings related to loss.

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