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Many of us live our lives on the hamster wheel. Going round and round and never getting off. I hear this time and time again from my clients that come to see me looking to find their sense of self on that hamster wheel. The self they lost whilst being a career/business person, wife/husband/parent/achiever or pleaser/doer.

The wheel does not run on batteries, it does not run out, it goes round and round and does not stop. It is driven by the energy you have given it, namely survival.

The survival “fight or flight” has a way of protecting us yet it destroys, exhausts and denies us the power we were born with. The power to make healthy choices, to take charge of what we are worthy of being and living. At certain points in my clients’ lives, many get tired, many feel lost and many want to get to know who they truly are, their identity, their sense of self. Many have reached a threshold and enough is enough.

It is only then that one is faced with the changes in the wheel. The bolts are loosened, yet it still goes round. The wheel slows down, yet it still goes round. A few parts of the wheel need oiled or replaced, yet it still goes round. The wheel looks older and needs some maintenance, yet it still goes round. It is only then that the letting go begins.

I too was on the Hamster Wheel and never got off until one day my eyes opened and I stopped taking responsibility for the Hamster Wheel. I allowed it to stop and let me off. With a clear vision and realization that I had created this wheel many years ago as a survival mechanism to feel needed, I set myself free and took back my own power of self.

Having worked with thousands of clients, there are many commonalities in living on that wheel.

Here are a few examples:

  • The need to have financial security, yet enough is never enough

  • A sense of having to win with competition being the game

  • The feeling of being needed

  • Avoidance of feeling your emotions

  • Fear of death

  • Perfectionism

  • Caring too much yet subconsciously the need to control

  • The need for love and affection

As I tell my clients, we were not born to live on a Hamster Wheel. We were all born free, adventurous, love and with the ability to express ourselves. Something happened along the way that turned the excitement in our souls into FEAR.

If you feel it is time for you to come off the Hamster Wheel and find your sense of self, please get in touch …

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This blog is not intended as a substitute for the medical advice of physicians and/or mental health counsellors. The reader should regularly consult a physician in matters relating to his/her health and particularly with respect to any symptoms that may require diagnosis or medical attention. Although this blog is based on actual experience, all the characters are completely fictional. Names, characters, businesses, places, events, locales, and incidents are used in a fictitious manner. Any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, or actual events is purely coincidental.

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